Dear Straight Women, We Want You, We Don't Need You.
Miss Lawrence, Bevy Smith and Derek J. Gay men and straight women. The relationship that we have can be at times an odd dance. One minute, we're the best of friends. Always there for each other. With ice cream and wine in hand. Ready to watch Waiting to Exhale, Begin Mary Jane or Will and Grace at a moment's notice. To her, we're the gay bff she's always wanted and needed. To us, she's the mother/sister friend that we can go to the club with and talk about boys with. For a moment. It's a perfect fit. Then suddenly something starts to shift. I don't know what exactly happens but the person that we thought of as a friend. Either they start to change or we change. Either way, things are never the same. It's hurtful, it's anger inducing and it's sad for everyone involved. At the start of the friendship. It was cool to gossip and "spill the tea" with each other while watching housewives or just chilling with one another. Then ...